Comments on: The Problem With Building High Self Esteem http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/ These are the footprints on the road of my life. The marks that prove I was here... Tue, 24 Jan 2012 19:56:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Vanessa http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-557 Vanessa Wed, 15 Oct 2008 16:31:00 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-557 Spot on again, Heidi. Separating the "judgement" (criticism, whatever name you use) from defining who you are as a person is SO important. One of my priorities with my children is the language they use to describe themselves. I often reinforce with them that while it is OK to say "Boy that was a stupid thing to do!", it is NOT OK to say "I'm so stupid!" My approach to tackling this issue is through the language my children use to describe themselves, or how they make comments about their friends. Focus on the act, not the person. Spot on again, Heidi. Separating the “judgement” (criticism, whatever name you use) from defining who you are as a person is SO important. One of my priorities with my children is the language they use to describe themselves. I often reinforce with them that while it is OK to say “Boy that was a stupid thing to do!”, it is NOT OK to say “I’m so stupid!” My approach to tackling this issue is through the language my children use to describe themselves, or how they make comments about their friends. Focus on the act, not the person.

]]> By: mani goel http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-464 mani goel Tue, 23 Sep 2008 02:59:41 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-464 It teaches us the importance of positive thinking. Those who have self-esteem don’t talk about failures; instead, they try to find out why they did not succeed. It teaches us the importance of positive thinking. Those who have self-esteem don’t talk about failures; instead, they try to find out why they did not succeed.

]]> By: KarenJanowski http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-395 KarenJanowski Tue, 09 Sep 2008 20:18:40 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-395 Hiedi, Have you read anything by Alfie Kohn? You may be interested in his article, "Five Reasons to Stop Saying Good Job." It supports some of what you are saying here. Hiedi,
Have you read anything by Alfie Kohn? You may be interested in his article, “Five Reasons to Stop Saying Good Job.” It supports some of what you are saying here.

]]> By: heidi http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-393 heidi Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:26:04 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-393 Hi Thomas, Thank you - I'm learning to write for myself instead of what I think I should, but it's still great to hear what I've written has connected! Getting past all the "should" is hard and takes so much energy. I find I'm getting better at recognizing that voice - it's still a lesson I have to remind myself of every day! The journey to finding ourselves is daunting, but so worth it, isn't it? Take care, Heidi Hi Thomas,
Thank you – I’m learning to write for myself instead of what I think I should, but it’s still great to hear what I’ve written has connected!

Getting past all the “should” is hard and takes so much energy. I find I’m getting better at recognizing that voice – it’s still a lesson I have to remind myself of every day!

The journey to finding ourselves is daunting, but so worth it, isn’t it?

Take care,
Heidi

]]> By: Thomas http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-388 Thomas Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:18:04 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-388 I am moved by the openness of your writing. This area of self-image feels tome as the beginning and end of the journey. I have the sense that self-esteem as a label can be both useful and a potential trap. It is useful to reflect on how I consider myself. Too often we walk through life with letting others define us. It appears to me the trap can be that the ego can use this reflection to create mischief by having us believe that we should be some other way that only perpetuates not being myself. Thomas I am moved by the openness of your writing. This area of self-image feels tome as the beginning and end of the journey. I have the sense that self-esteem as a label can be both useful and a potential trap. It is useful to reflect on how I consider myself. Too often we walk through life with letting others define us. It appears to me the trap can be that the ego can use this reflection to create mischief by having us believe that we should be some other way that only perpetuates not being myself.

Thomas

]]> By: Personal development http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2008/09/05/the-problem-with-building-high-self-esteem/comment-page-1/#comment-384 Personal development Sat, 06 Sep 2008 09:41:48 +0000 http://www.iwasthinking.ca/?p=227#comment-384 Hey, Your post is lovely!Really an informative post to be read by each of us, Thanks for sharing this post. Hey,

Your post is lovely!Really an informative post to be read by each of us, Thanks for sharing this post.

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